Monday, December 28, 2015

Intention versus Resolution

Every morning is a fresh beginning. Every day is the world made new. Today is a new day. Today is my world made new. I have lived all my life up to this moment, to come to this day. This moment--this day--is as good as any moment in all eternity. I shall make of this day--each moment of this day--a heaven on earth. This is my day of opportunity.--Dan Custer

It has been said that of the 40% of the population that creates New Year’s Resolutions, only 8% will actually follow through with them.  Many of us, after over-spending, over-eating those holiday cookies, and over-drinking to celebrate with friends and family, vow to change our ways on December 31st.  We promise that when we wake up on January 1st, we will not eat any more cookies, run 5 miles a day every day, chop up the credit cards (since there isn’t any room left on them anyway), and dump out all of the alcohol.  It isn’t too difficult to do many of these things on January 1st, because much of the population has such a bad hangover, all they can do is crawl to the kitchen and grab a piece of toast – but wait…that’s just more carbs; right?!

But January 2nd dawns, and there we are, we didn’t cut up the credit card and we didn’t go for that 5 mile run.  We might as well abandon our New Year’s Resolution, because these resolutions are unrealistic!  This is partly true – the unrealistic part.  Resolutions, by their very nature, deal with “solutions” – solving perceived problems.  Resolutions are about dumping what we think of as bad habits.  I say, “No More Resolutions!”  (Kind of like the time I gave up Lent for Lent! Still holding true to that one decades later!)

Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.--St. Francis of Assisi 

I say it is time for Intentions!  When we Intend on doing something, we are making plans to do something that we want to do.  Resolutions are usually to get rid of things that we no longer want in our lives.

We should be focusing on Positive and Empowering words!  We should be adding to our lives, not taking away.  When you take away, you create a feeling of deprivation – and when most humans feel deprived of something that brings us joy (to a small degree) we start to crave it more.  We give in and then we feel “bad” because we “slipped.”  Instead, intend of doing what will bring you joy and peace.  As one article pointed out, “intentions are about becoming aware of different ways that you would prefer to be in your life.”

Make a list of those things that you want to bring in to your life!  Create a vision board of where you would like to see yourself in five years – at the end of the year, or heck, at the end of January!  The wonderful thing about a list of what you want to bring in to your life is that it focuses on the Positives!  You are bringing more in, not depriving yourself!  You are creating, not destroying!  You are making yourself better through what will bring you joy!

Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius and power and magic in it.--Goethe

Many of you have read about the Law of Attraction.  What you put out into the Universe is what you will receive!  If you resolve to focus on your negative outcomes, you will focus on problems and then the failures of being unable to attain the change.  When you focus on the positive habits you want to invite in to your life (which, by the way, will crowd out those habits you want to change), you are bringing in positive energy in to your life.  “Because on the path towards a more positive you, there is no ultimate destination, each small step forward along the way is an opportunity and a blessing.”

Be positive with yourself – Forgive Yourself!  Move forward with small steps and bring elements in to your life that will bring you closer to your dreams.  As Zen Dog says: It’s the Glory of the Ride!

 So, what are your Intentions for this New Year?  Where do you want to see yourself by the end of the year?  What will bring you closer to that?  Be positive and move forward! Don’t be stuck in the past with regrets.

A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.
--Lao-Tsu, (The Way of Lao-Tsu)  

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